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Blue Christmas? Take your time to cry and figure out what you need, says psychologist.

The “Aunt Pitt” family says it will be another Christmas since she died this fall. 

Not everyone sings carols or decorates the hall this Christmas. Janine Hubbard, President of the Newfoundland and Labrador Psychological Association, said holidays (usually including rituals and family time) could lead to more severe loss if a loved one died this year or in the past. 

 Hubbard said there is no accurate way to grieve for the loved one you lost.”It’s a different process for each individual.

According to Hubbard, everyone has the right to feel their feelings and sadness when people choose to share their memories or have a calm feast. But over time, Hubbard said there was a way to encourage the deceased to re-celebrate the tradition. 

“I have a tradition of Christmas baking that still reminds me of Christmas Eve at my grandmother’s house every year,” Hubbard said. This could be the way to find some of these rituals and traditions for loved ones continuing with us in a fun way.

It will be another Christmas, says the Epitacia Bruce family, commonly known as “Auntie Pitt.” Bruce was the first Filipino to come to Labrador. She arrived in 1965 and she taught throughout the Central Labrador region. Bruce died on November 15th. 

Salve Achacoso told she was like her second mother because her sister was her best friend and Achacoso was the youngest of her family at the age of 15. Bruce took on the role of grandmother when Achacoso began to have his own child. 

“She is her great aunt with a big heart enough for her whole family,” Achacoso said.

Maricar Matugas Ballantyne said her aunt is bigger than life and has a smile and kind words to everyone. The family is now preparing to go on vacation without Bruce and one of Achacoso`s other brothers who died this fall and her husband, adding to the sadness of the family. “It hurts so much,” said Achacoso. 

“I know I have to be strong for my family, so I have to be able to show them that strength is worth it because there is always a fight in life, but you Must track it. ”  

MatugasBallantyne agreed that it was difficult to feel the Christmas mood, but it gave her the opportunity to think and learn.

Read More: Having a blue Christmas? Take time to grieve and understand what you need, says psychologist | CBC News

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